Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Love Vs Lust


hello everyone..this is my next posting about love vs lust...you need to read my post this times...its important for us....

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Ever have the thought that you could be dangerously in love? Falling into the danger of having confusion and misunderstanding between love and lust, unable to handle your emotions well enough? Now, what is the difference between love and lust? Well, I should believe that it is something worth our thoughts and understanding.

If you were to look through a dictionary, you should find something like this:



LOVE

• To have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them

• Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

• Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

LUST


• An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power

• Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire

• Intense eagerness or enthusiasm

Notice how different they can be?
Seeing the sign that you could possibly be dangerously in love? True love, the genuine care and concern for your love is what we should be having. But lust, the uncontrolled desire or craving for your love is certainly not to be desired. Having too much of lust than to love can certainly bring danger to your love relationship. But well, we are still human afterall and I must say that these very two emotions is certainly within and happening inside of us. You can never deny that fact that you will be having lust at times. But perhaps all these while, it just didn’t occur to you that you have at times been actually feeling so, having some uncontrolled lust over your love. So, I thought it would be good to just bring to your attention and make you be aware of it, to allow you to be better handling your emotions.

In simple, we can say that love is a choice; a choice that you hope to have; to be having that chance to be with that someone whom you love, having that chance to genuinely and unselfishly be giving him or her your true tender love and care, bringing about that happiness for him or her. Whereas lust is a want, an obsessive desire to have purely for self-satisfaction and pleasure.

Now, love is always a two-way communication and not just about you. In a love relationship, you give and take. You don’t just take and take. By only taking and not giving, you are actually behaving in a way of having lust, wanting just more and more for yourself out of the relationship. Instead of providing your love with happiness, you are only thinking about how your love can or should make you happy. To describe it in a more ugly way, you are just loving yourself more than to actually loving him or her. And this is certainly not the way as to how a love relationship should be. A blissful love relationship should always be mutual, a mutual happiness for the both. Many at times, we tend to just think for ourselves and this can be especially so for those who are already in a steady love relationship for or a year or more. Well, in the beginning of the love relationship, both would always be on their best to make their love, their partner happy.

Remember, nobody is perfect and that includes you. And that is why we have to learn to give and take. We were taught that since young and it absolutely applies too in a love relationship.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

SaYinG I LOvE yOu


hello..hello..my friends...we meet again...
in my blog "Dokter cinTa"
well now we're talking about SAYING I LOVE YOU...

interisted...here we goes...


The all times special three-letters word, “I Love You” is what we would always be hearing when we talk about love. It is the words that one would use to express their feeling of affection for their very loved ones.

Hmmm…? Perhaps having the fear of shouldering that responsibility behind these powerful words? Yes, it is in a way true. You shouldn’t be saying I love you to someone unless you truly mean it. Once it is said, you can never take it back.

Well, there has to certainly be a considerable time of being together before the relationship would further develop into the stage of marriage. For some, a year or two and for some, up to even a duration of 5 to 7 years before reaching this stage. So are you not going to be saying “I love you” to your love during these times, not even once?.

Saying I love you is just a way of expressing your affection for your love. It doesn’t have to be that stressful. It should instead just come from within your heart, in a very joyful and relaxing mood… To be getting an “I love You” from your love is just always that sweet. And to be saying it to your love, is a nice way of assuring and promising him or her of your very love for them…

So, why not say it to them? Tell your very love just how much you love him or her. You need not have to wait for him or her. You can definitely be taking the initiative. Why not? I am sure that your love would just love to be hearing it from you.Well, if he or she truly loves you, it is going to be just a matter of time when he or she will say it to you. Believe in yourself, your love and your relationship.

Saying an “I love You” to your loved one is for sure nice. But then again, you don’t have to always be saying it just very here and then. Remember, the words have to come from truly within your heart, in a very joyful and relaxing mood. And only so, will the real warmness and meaningfulness of the words be there; to be touching that very heart of that beloved of yours. Well, save them for during those special occasions or when the correct mood or timing is there… And last but not least, don’t forget to response back in saying an “I love you too” to your love when you received it from him or her. A relationship is always a two-way communication, isn’t it? Don’t disappoint your love. Well, you may not be ready now but when the correct timing arrives when you feel the want to be saying it, just do it.
Be courageous in love…